I want to thank you all for following this page, for reading the blog, and for sharing it with those you love. Your support has meant so much 💗
You might have noticed that the blog hasn't been active recently. I still care passionately about sexual violence, but other things have been taking up my energy.
In the past year, both of my parents have died (in their late fifties), and my eight year relationship ended. It's a lot of loss in a short time, and I've started blogging about it, as part of the grieving process. I think it's helping.
But even though These Are Not My Secrets is dormant at the moment, the posts are all still there, and the message is still true: if you've experienced sexual violence, you have no reason to feel guilty or ashamed. You deserve healing and happiness. Your stories are your own to tell, and the people who love you will believe you.
I don't know if I'll be posting here again - let's wait and see.
With all the love in the world, Jam X
My life is still very busy (I am halfway through a four year degree in a healthcare profession - I had to take a year's break from that, too!) and I am still, of course, working through my grief, but I'm hoping that maybe I can find space for the blog again.
Recently, it was suggested to me that I add a donate button to the blog.
The horror! A combination of culture and politics means that I am incredibly uncomfortable talking about money, and the idea of a donate button (or donut button, as I prefer to think of it - send donuts!) felt awful. But, it was argued, there may be someone out there who *wants* to donate, but currently can't. Any money that is donated will go toward my therapy, which is wonderful, but expensive and ongoing.
So, when you see the shiny new donut button, please do not feel any pressure whatsoever. Unless you actively *want* to send donuts, it is not for you. I truly am just so happy you're here, reading the blog.
And if you do send donuts, please give me your email address, so that I can thank you.
And, because I've not used the word yet, and I fear I may have my Englishness revoked if I don't: sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry! 😉